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Specializing in narcissistic abuse recovery — available online throughout California.
"Healing is possible, and you don't have to walk it alone."
— Kristen Fong, LMFTDoes any of this feel familiar?
Many people who reach out to me don't even have a name for what they've been through — they only know something isn't right.
You Question Your Own Reality
You've been told so many times that your feelings are wrong, overblown, or imagined — you've started to believe it.
You Walk on Eggshells
Keeping the peace has become your full-time job. You've learned to shrink yourself to avoid conflict — or worse, punishment.
You Feel Responsible for Everyone's Emotions
You were taught — often in childhood — that it was your job to manage the feelings of the people around you.
You Can't Understand Why You Feel So Stuck
From the outside, everything looks fine. But inside, anxiety, self-doubt, and exhaustion have become your constant companions.
You've Never Felt Unconditionally Safe at Home
The people who were supposed to protect you — a parent, a partner — may have been the very source of your pain.
You Struggle to Trust Your Own Voice
You find it hard to ask for what you need, set limits, or even know what you truly want — because for so long, none of that was allowed.
"Healing begins the moment your story is truly heard."
Kristen Fong, LMFTHi, I'm Kristen.
I've been a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist for over 20 years. But more than my training, it's my own experience — as the daughter of a narcissistic mother who left our family when I was 12 — that drives my commitment to this work.
I know what it's like to carry wounds you can't fully name. I know the particular ache of growing up in a home that felt unsafe. And I know how transformative it can be to finally have your experience recognized, validated, and healed.
What surprises many of my clients is realizing that what they experienced was emotional trauma — not something to minimize, but something deserving of real care.
Words that may finally make sense
Many people I work with say the same thing: "I didn't even know there was a name for it." Here are some of the terms that often resonate — and help survivors understand what they've been through.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder
A pattern of excessive self-focus, lack of empathy, manipulation, controlling behaviors, and entitlement that consistently harms the people closest to the person affected.
Gaslighting
A form of psychological abuse where your perceptions, memories, and feelings are systematically undermined until you stop trusting yourself. Essentially, your reality is denied.
Gray Rock Method
A boundary-setting approach that involves becoming intentionally unresponsive and emotionally neutral to avoid becoming a target for further manipulation.
Idealization & Scapegoating
In narcissistic families, children are often divided — one is the "golden child" who is idealized, while another carries the family's blame as the scapegoat.
Parentification
When a child is expected to fulfill an adult's emotional or practical needs — robbing them of their childhood and establishing lifelong unhealthy patterns of taking care of others feelings.
C-PTSD
Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder — a common outcome of long-term narcissistic abuse, marked by hypervigilance, emotional dysregulation, and low trust.
You can't force someone to respect you — but you can decide to stop accepting disrespect.— A reminder for every client who has ever doubted their worth
You don't have to figure this out alone.
A free 15-minute consultation is a no-pressure way to ask questions, share what you're going through, and see whether working together feels right.
Schedule Your Free ConsultationSessions are conducted via telehealth — from anywhere in California.