You found someone who understands.
Not just professionally — but personally...
You question whether your feelings are real
You've been told so many times that you're too sensitive, too dramatic, too much — that you've started to believe it.
I know what it's like to have your reality rewritten
Growing up in a narcissistic family system means learning that your perception of events is always wrong. I've sat in that confusion — and I've found my way out of it.
You feel responsible for someone else's happiness
Managing their moods, anticipating their needs, walking on eggshells — it has become your full-time job.
I've carried that weight too
My mother's emotional needs became my responsibility long before I was old enough to understand what that meant. I know the exhaustion of that role intimately.
You don't understand how you got here again
The same patterns keep showing up — in your relationships, your friendships, your family. You wonder if something is wrong with you.
I've been in those patterns myself
I've experienced narcissistic relationships — as a daughter, a friend, a co-worker. I know how invisible the trap is until you're already inside it, and how hard it is to name.
You're not sure who you are outside of this
So much of your energy has gone into surviving that you've lost touch with what you actually want, feel, and need.
I found myself again — and I can help you do the same
The work of reclaiming your identity after narcissistic abuse is real, gradual, and profoundly possible. I've walked that path personally and professionally for over 20 years.
Where this all began
The personal experience that shaped both my wounds — and my ability to truly understand yours.
My mother left our family when I was twelve years old. Not just physically — she withdrew in every way that mattered long before she ever walked out the door.
I grew up inside what is now called a Narcissistic Family System — a home where criticism, manipulation, neglect, and controlling behavior felt completely normal because they were all I'd ever known. And yet to everyone outside our front door, my mother was charming, warm, and kind. The gap between those two realities is something I carry with me still — and something I hear from almost every client I work with.
It is, as I often tell them, truly crazy-making.
What I didn't understand then — and what took me years of my own therapy, training, and hard work to learn — is that those patterns don't stay in your childhood home. They follow you. I found myself in narcissistic friendships, then narcissistic step parents, until I understood how to stay outside these relationships.
That journey is what brought me to this work. Not just the training, not just the 20 years in practice — but the lived knowledge of what it costs to grow up unprotected, and what it takes to rebuild. I became a therapist because my own experience in therapy was so invaluable and life changing. And now I get to help others and possibly change their lives for the better.
When you build boundaries, you will disarm the narcissist.— Kristen Fong, LMFT
Training, experience, and something more
My credentials matter — but they're not what makes me effective. What makes me effective is that I've done this work on myself first. Every tool I bring to the room, I've used on my own healing.
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist
California License #36228 — licensed to practice therapy throughout the state of California via telehealth.
MA in Counseling Psychology
University of San Francisco — where I built the clinical foundation that has guided over 20 years of private practice.
BA in Industrial/Organizational Psychology
San Francisco State University — an early foundation in understanding human behavior within systems and relationships.
Level I & II Training — Narcissistic Parent Recovery
Specialized training with Dr. Karyl McBride, one of the leading researchers and clinicians in narcissistic family recovery.
20+ Years in Private Practice
Serving clients throughout California — now exclusively via telehealth, from the comfort and privacy of your own space.
You've come this far. That took courage.
Reading someone else's story — recognizing pieces of your own in it — is not a small thing. If any of this resonated, I'd love to talk. A free 15-minute consultation is a no-pressure conversation, nothing more.
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